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There’s a scene in the movie “Something’s Gotta Give” that simply and succinctly captures one reality about the truth. After catching the man she loves on a date with another woman, Diane Keaton is chased out of the restaurant by a <a class="inline-links topic-link" href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/guilt" style="background: transparent; border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(153, 153, 153); color: black; padding-bottom: 2px; text-decoration-line: none; transition: color 0.2s; word-wrap: break-word;" title="Psychology Today looks at guilty">guilty</a> and distraught Jack Nicholson. <br />
<a name='more'></a>When he finally stops her, he pleads, “I have never lied to you, I have always told you some version of the truth.” She replies, “The truth doesn't have versions, okay?” And that’s the truth. The truth may have many sides to it. It may be complicated or hard to understand, but it exists… in one version. Yet, most of us have trouble with the truth. We may not be outright liars, but we certainly shade the truth to make it fit more comfortably into our lives—to keep it from disrupting anything from our careers to our relationships to our afternoons.</div>
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In her <a class="ext" href="http://psycnet.apa.org/journals/psp/70/5/979/" style="background: transparent; color: black; transition: color 0.2s; word-wrap: break-word;" target="_blank">research<span class="ext" style="background: url("https://cdn.psychologytoday.com/sites/all/modules/contrib/extlink/extlink_s.png") 2px center no-repeat; height: 10px; padding-right: 12px; text-decoration-line: none; width: 10px;"><span class="element-invisible" style="clip: rect(1px 1px 1px 1px); height: 1px; overflow: hidden; position: absolute !important;">(link is external)</span></span></a>, Bella DePaulo, Ph.D. found that people lie in one in five of their daily interactions. Pamela Meyer, author of <em>Liespotting</em>, claims in her <a class="ext" href="http://www.ted.com/talks/pamela_meyer_how_to_spot_a_liar.html" style="background: transparent; color: black; transition: color 0.2s; word-wrap: break-word;" target="_blank">TED Talk<span class="ext" style="background: url("https://cdn.psychologytoday.com/sites/all/modules/contrib/extlink/extlink_s.png") 2px center no-repeat; height: 10px; padding-right: 12px; text-decoration-line: none; width: 10px;"><span class="element-invisible" style="clip: rect(1px 1px 1px 1px); height: 1px; overflow: hidden; position: absolute !important;">(link is external)</span></span></a> that we’re lied to from 10-200 times a day. It’s important to consider: how honest is the world we’ve created around ourselves? How often do we ourselves tell lies? And, on the flip side, do we intimidate others in ways that might encourage them to shade the truth?</div>
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It’s common for people to only say the parts of the truth that they feel are acceptable or that they think people want to hear, leaving the full truth hidden away. They may lie by omission or tell “little white lies” that paint a very different picture of reality. It’s no surprise that these lies don’t just hurt relationships, they can outright destroy them. Even lies told in the name of protecting others can leave you feeling pretty bad about yourself, because you don’t feel like an authentic, strong individual when you aren’t being honest. Here are some examples of the many ways people lie and how these lies hurt them in all areas of their lives:<br />
<strong><br />Controlling a Response</strong>—When you talk to a close friend about an interaction with a co-worker or lover, do you only tell your side of the story? Do you leave out a small but significant detail about something you brought to the table? Do you rephrase the less desirable words you said in the moment? Think about how these subtle changes may influence your friend’s attitude and response. Are you just getting your friend to say what you want to hear? In the end, how authentic is their response if you strategically manipulated the outcome?</div>
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When you control a response by shading the truth, you create an alternate, agreed upon reality between you and another person. You then get advice that may be based on faulty information. Plus, you deny yourself the value and integrity that another person's true opinions might have awarded you.<br />
<strong><br />Lying by Omission—</strong>Ever complained to someone that you aren’t losing weight without mentioning the Grande Frappuccino you downed as an afternoon snack? Everyone has times when they leave out less desirable details. Sometimes you do this to be sensitive or to spare a person’s feelings, but sometimes those details matter, and you know it. For example, if your partner asks what you did that day, you may not mention that you wound up running into an ex and having lunch. Maybe you try to conceal an ongoing <a class="inline-links topic-link" href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/flirting" style="background: transparent; border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(153, 153, 153); color: black; padding-bottom: 2px; text-decoration-line: none; transition: color 0.2s; word-wrap: break-word;" title="Psychology Today looks at flirtation">flirtation</a> with a co-worker. These may not feel like acts of <a class="inline-links topic-link" href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/deception" style="background: transparent; border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(153, 153, 153); color: black; padding-bottom: 2px; text-decoration-line: none; transition: color 0.2s; word-wrap: break-word;" title="Psychology Today looks at deception">deception</a> to you, but imagine how your partner would see them. Whether there’s nothing to hide or something real you’d rather they not know about, leaving out significant facts will make you feel shady and create a hotbed for further deceptions. On the other hand, creating an <a class="inline-links topic-link" href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/environment" style="background: transparent; border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(153, 153, 153); color: black; padding-bottom: 2px; text-decoration-line: none; transition: color 0.2s; word-wrap: break-word;" title="Psychology Today looks at environment">environment</a> where you can be open about these things will promote a feeling of mutual trust and honest communication.<br />
<strong><br />Exaggerations—</strong>People's insecurities about themselves may lead them to try to preserve a certain image of themselves, and they may experience a need for approval from others. However, when you exaggerate or don’t represent yourself honestly, you are left feeling like a fraud, which further hurts your <a class="inline-links topic-link" href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/self-esteem" style="background: transparent; border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(153, 153, 153); color: black; padding-bottom: 2px; text-decoration-line: none; transition: color 0.2s; word-wrap: break-word;" title="Psychology Today looks at self-esteem">self-esteem</a>. There’s a fine line between highlighting your attributes and completely inflating your abilities. At work, you may promise to finish a task you know you won’t be able to complete on time. You may exaggerate to a boss when it comes to your progress or skill level. Doing this will lead to trouble when, most likely, your actions will fail to match your words.</div>
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At times, you may lie to compensate for guilt. <a class="inline-links topic-link" href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/parenting" style="background: transparent; border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(153, 153, 153); color: black; padding-bottom: 2px; text-decoration-line: none; transition: color 0.2s; word-wrap: break-word;" title="Psychology Today looks at Parents">Parents</a> often do this with their children, missing a soccer game, for instance, then promising they’ll show up at every game for the rest of the season—only to disappoint again soon-after. It’s hard to hide a broken promise, a missed meeting or a poor performance. Exaggerating deems you untrustworthy. Your words start to mean a lot less when the reality doesn’t match up. Plus, you may never believe that you’re being chosen or cared about for who you really are.</div>
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<strong>Self-Protection—</strong>Too often, people are coached by an inner critic to not express directly what they want or feel toward other people. You may have a guard up that tells you not to be too vulnerable. You may downplay your emotions or <a class="inline-links topic-link" href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/therapy-types/acceptance-and-commitment-therapy" style="background: transparent; border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(153, 153, 153); color: black; padding-bottom: 2px; text-decoration-line: none; transition: color 0.2s; word-wrap: break-word;" title="Psychology Today looks at act">act</a> like you don’t care, because you don’t want to feel or look like a fool. But defending yourself with deceptions or false portrayals of who you are will drive you further from your <a class="inline-links topic-link" href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/motivation" style="background: transparent; border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(153, 153, 153); color: black; padding-bottom: 2px; text-decoration-line: none; transition: color 0.2s; word-wrap: break-word;" title="Psychology Today looks at goals">goals</a> and will likely prevent you from getting what you want in life.</div>
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Another problem is that gossip breeds <a class="inline-links topic-link" href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/pessimism" style="background: transparent; border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(153, 153, 153); color: black; padding-bottom: 2px; text-decoration-line: none; transition: color 0.2s; word-wrap: break-word;" title="Psychology Today looks at cynicism">cynicism</a> and destroys compassion. It’s a nasty way of indirectly dealing with real observations or competitive feelings. When you favor direct communication over gossip, you become a more genuine, compassionate, not to mention appealing, person to be around.</div>
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Some people believe you need lies to survive in a relationship. I would argue that this is untrue. Misleading a person distorts their reality and makes them feel crazy, which is one of the most unethical things you can do to another person. So what can you do to be more honest? You can begin by being honest with yourself.</div>
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First off, you can stop listening to your “<a class="ext" href="http://www.psychalive.org/2009/06/critical-inner-voice/" style="background: transparent; color: black; transition: color 0.2s; word-wrap: break-word;" target="_blank">critical inner voice<span class="ext" style="background: url("https://cdn.psychologytoday.com/sites/all/modules/contrib/extlink/extlink_s.png") 2px center no-repeat; height: 10px; padding-right: 12px; text-decoration-line: none; width: 10px;"><span class="element-invisible" style="clip: rect(1px 1px 1px 1px); height: 1px; overflow: hidden; position: absolute !important;">(link is external)</span></span></a>.” Shading the truth often comes from listening to an inner coach that’s not on your side, that instructs you to self-protect by telling you things like you can only be accepted if you say the right thing or don’t really reveal yourself. In relation to your boss, it may tell you, “You’ve been messing up lately so make your boss think you solved this problem without the help of your co-workers.” With your spouse, it may say, “Don’t tell her you forgot her birthday; it will only lead to a fight.” In relation to a competitor, it may advise you, “Don’t let him know you think he’s talented. Don’t let your guard down; he’ll just use the truth to hurt you.” By getting to know this inner critic, you can separate it from your real point of view and act against it.</div>
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Next, you can take chances on the people you care about by being a lot more honest and direct with them. You can find healthy and considerate ways to express yourself and to be sensitive to the other person’s sense of reality. The truth may not always be easy to hear, but in the long term, you will earn a lot more trust and respect from the people whose opinion you value the most.</div>
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When it comes to the truth, it’s important to think about whether you want people to trust you. Do you value integrity and want your words to be reflected in your actions? If you commit to these attributes on a behavioral level, you’ll be better able to gain trust and live your life with honest, open communication. This world may not be perfect, nor the truth always easy to take, but you can find peace and freedom in the security of knowing that the world you’ve created around you is as real as it gets.</div>
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ADMINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09458010793625286266noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3010909731661913699.post-21340921016595694082018-01-11T10:13:00.000-08:002018-01-11T11:17:32.587-08:00jealousy in relationships - 8 Healthy Ways to Deal with Jealousy<div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: "Open Sans", verdana, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1.625em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; zoom: 1;">
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Jealousy becomes problematic “when we act out in jealousy or we wallow in it,” said Christina Hibbert, PsyD, a clinical psychologist in Flagstaff, Ariz.<br />
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It becomes problematic when it starts to consume you and “creeps into every aspect of your life,” said Kathy Morelli, LPC, a psychotherapist with a marriage and family counseling practice in Wayne, N.J. And you find yourself feeling bitter and angry often, she said.</div>
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One of the most common types of jealousy is romantic jealousy, she said. We also tend to feel jealous about others’ successes, strengths, lifestyles and relationships, Hibbert said.</div>
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For instance, we might believe someone’s life is much easier or more comfortable than ours. “We see only the good in their life and only the ‘bad’ in ours.” Or we might believe our best friend has a better relationship with another friend.</div>
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Social networking sites – such as Facebook – also can trigger jealousy. “[T]oday our online and offline worlds overlap, so there’s a lot more confusion and complexity in relationships and more ways to compare ourselves to others,” Morelli said.</div>
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Insecurity often underlies jealousy. “We feel threatened, or less than or not good enough,” Hibbert said. “[W]e fear that someone else’s strengths mean something negative about us.”</div>
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(Jealously also may be the result of your earlier experiences . But more on that later.)</div>
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Below, you’ll find general tips for dealing with jealousy, along with specific suggestions for jealousy in romantic relationships.</div>
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<b style="zoom: 1;">Assess your relationship.</b></div>
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“The best way to overcome jealousy is to first take a look at your romantic relationship,” Morelli said. For instance, consider if your relationship is built on trust, respect and love, and if your partner’s behavior reflects their words, she said.</div>
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Are they honest with you? If they’re not, naturally, this can trigger or perpetuate your insecurities, said Morelli, also author of the books <i style="margin: 0px 7px 0px 0px; zoom: 1;">BirthTouch® for Pregnant andPostpartum Couples</i>, <i style="margin: 0px 7px 0px 0px; zoom: 1;">Perinatal Mental Illness for Childbirth Professionals</i>, and <i style="margin: 0px 7px 0px 0px; zoom: 1;">Healing for Parents in the NICU</i>.</div>
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“If you are in an insecure relationship, expect to have your jealousy buttons pushed. But no one can tell you what to do. If you stay, most likely you’ll feel bad and jealous sometimes.”</div>
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<b style="zoom: 1;">Assess yourself.</b></div>
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If you’re in a secure and solid relationship, and you’re still feeling jealous, look at yourself and explore your own experiences.</div>
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“Research on the subject of jealousy in a romantic relationship indicates that a person’s basic attachment style underlies their tendencies towards jealous reactions,” Morelli said.</div>
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People who developed secure attachments in their early years – between themselves and their caregivers – tend to be less jealous and dependent, have higher self-esteem and have less feelings of inadequacy than people with an insecure attachment style, she said.</div>
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Morelli suggested asking yourself these questions:</div>
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<li style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0.6em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; zoom: 1;">“Do you have a pervasive feeling of emptiness or lack of self-worth?</li>
<li style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0.6em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; zoom: 1;">How was your relationship with your early caregivers?</li>
<li style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0.6em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; zoom: 1;">Was the atmosphere in your home warm and loving sometimes, but also critical?</li>
<li style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0.6em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; zoom: 1;">Were you raised in a repressive atmosphere?</li>
<li style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0.6em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; zoom: 1;">Were your early caregivers unreliable?”</li>
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Attachment style is malleable, she said. Later experiences and circumstances can influence your style. For instance, a skilled therapist can help you build self-esteem and work through your concerns.</div>
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<b style="zoom: 1;">Seek out other support.</b></div>
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Have interests outside your relationship, Morelli said. Talk to a friend about your jealous feelings, “but don’t do this to the exclusion of talking to your partner.”</div>
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General Tips</h3>
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<b style="zoom: 1;">Recognize your jealousy.</b></div>
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“When we name the jealousy, it loses its power, because we are no longer letting it shame us,” <a href="http://www.drchristinahibbert.com/" style="border: 0px; color: #286ea0; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration-line: none; vertical-align: baseline; zoom: 1;" target="_blank">Hibbert</a> said. Acknowledging that you’re jealous opens the door to learning, she said.</div>
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<b style="zoom: 1;">Learn from your jealousy.</b></div>
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We can use feelings of jealousy as inspiration to grow, said Hibbert, also author of the book <i style="margin: 0px 7px 0px 0px; zoom: 1;">This is How We Grow</i>. For instance, you realize that the reason you get jealous every time your friend plays her guitar is because that’s also something you’d like to do. Rather than wallowing in that jealousy, you sign up for guitar lessons, she said.</div>
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<b style="zoom: 1;">Let it go.</b></div>
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Tell yourself that you don’t need this emotion in your life, and you’re relinquishing it, Hibbert said. Then “breathe deeply, and imagine it flowing through you like the wind. Repeat as often as it takes to truly let it go.”</div>
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<b style="zoom: 1;">Manage your emotions healthfully. </b></div>
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“Practice mindfulness to calm your runaway emotions,” Morelli said. For instance, she suggested readers tune into your body to identify how you’re feeling, take several deep breaths and try to detach from the intensity of those emotions.</div>
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If your jealousy involves your romantic relationship, share your feelings with your partner <i style="margin: 0px 7px 0px 0px; zoom: 1;">after </i>you calm down, she said.</div>
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To process your emotions, she also suggested journaling, dancing to your favorite music and taking a walk.</div>
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<b style="zoom: 1;">Remind yourself of your positive traits.</b></div>
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Hibbert gave this example: “She is really good at playing with her kids, and I’m not so good. But I’m great at reading to them, and they love that about me.” This reminds us that everyone has strengths and weaknesses, she said.</div>
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Again, jealousy is a normal reaction. It becomes problematic when it becomes persistent. When you find yourself feeling jealous, recognize what’s happening and delve deeper into your relationships and yourself.</div>
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">While jealousy can sometimes feel intuitive, there are many complex facets to it, and knowing </span><i style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">which</i><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;"> facet you're dealing with can really help in finding a satisfying resolution. I had a real light-bulb moment the other day when reading </span><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1412977371/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=noaje-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1412977371" style="background-color: white; color: #009eb8; display: inline; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; outline: none; text-align: justify; text-decoration-line: none; transition: color 0.3s;" target="_blank">Close Encounters</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;"> and realised that I'd always thought jealousy could be divided into two different emotions (envy, and true jealousy). I was wrong, jealousy can be divided into </span><i style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">four</i><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">:</span><br />
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<span style="color: white; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px;"><b><u>I have a problem with jealousy vs envy!</u></b></span></span></div>
<b><u><span style="color: white;">i have a problem with jealousy in the bible</span></u></b><br />
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<b><u><span style="color: white;"> i have a problem with jealousy is a disease</span></u></b></div>
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<b><u><span style="color: white;">i have a problem with jealousy in relationships</span></u></b></div>
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<span style="color: #990000;"><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: medium; text-align: justify;"><b>Envy</b></span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">Envy is wanting what someone else has—be that goods, experiences, status, or relationships. It's distinct from true jealousy, which is where you perceive a threat to something you already have. When you tell your friend that you've just purchased a </span><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B005MR3IVO/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=noaje-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=B005MR3IVO" style="background-color: white; color: #009eb8; display: inline; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; outline: none; text-align: justify; text-decoration-line: none; transition: color 0.3s;" target="_blank">55 gallon drum of lube</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;"> and are building the world's most awesome slip'n'slide, it's likely what they're feeling is </span><i style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">envy</i><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">You can only feel envy about things you actually </span><i style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">desire</i><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">. I don't experience car envy, because I have no desire to own a car. I do envy other people's popularity or social skills, because those are things which I consider are important features in myself.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">Since envy is so closely linked to what an individual values, it's possible for romantic partners to experience envy over entirely different things. This is an important observation, because </span><b style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">you could be making your partner envious and not even realising it.</b><br />
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<b><img alt=""jealousy—envy"" src="http://youaresingledout.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/Envy-jealous-women-animated.jpg" height="298" title=""jealousy—envy"" width="400" /></b></div>
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">For this reason, if you find yourself envious—and that's bothering you—then please, </span><i style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">tell your partner</i><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">. "Hey honey, I know you're having a great holiday, but I'm having a pretty hard time with work." I know I've made the mistake of thinking news of my joyful successes would make a partner happy, but instead resulted in a degree of envy instead. Luckily, my partners do a great job of giving me feedback. </span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">Envy can be a big deal in relationships which are moving from a closed to open model; if one person gains a new lover—and their partner does not—then it can be easy to become envious of their new experiences, successes, and emotional state. It's common in many polyamorous relationships to ensure you're doing something </span><i style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">really</i><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;"> fun when a partner goes on a date, simply because it's hard to feel envy when you're having an amazing time. Conversely, staying at home and doing the laundry is a great way to invoke envy while your partner is in someone else's arms.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">Couples moving to an open relationship can will sometimes find that things become much less stressful once both partners have lovers—not only is envy reduced, but both being in similar situations can provide a shared perspective which can significantly reduce uncertainty.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">I've seen envy develop over things such as experiences and activities. While an existing partner may not feel threatened by a new one, they might feel that they're missing out on awesome dates and cool activities. The most obvious and effective solution here is to make sure existing partners don't feel left out—a candlelit dinner, a weekend away, or an invitation to your new slip'n'slide are all great solutions here.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;" />
<span style="color: #990000;"><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: medium; text-align: justify;"><b>Rivalry</b></span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">When two people are competing for something that neither one of them has, then </span><i style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">rivalry</i><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;"> exists. That might be competition for a position at work, the affection of another person, or a position on a committee. While rivalry often discussed with regards to young siblings, I know that I personally encounter </span><i style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">social</i><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;"> or </span><i style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">status</i><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;"> rivalry in terms of popularity and recognition.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">One can be friendly rivals, or bitter rivals, or even </span><i style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">ignorant</i><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;"> rivals, where one person is unaware the other person views the situation as rivalry.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">I won't be discussing rivalry in depth here, since in my experiences it's much less of a problem than the other facets of jealousy, however relational psychology does classify it separately.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;" />
<span style="color: #990000;"><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: medium; text-align: justify;"><b>Uncertainty</b></span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">Guerrero (1998) does an outstanding job systematically identifying different responses people have to jealousy-style emotions. What's most interesting here is that a significant chunk of the jealousy response is aimed directly at </span><i style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">reducing uncertainty</i><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">Contacting rivals, engaging in surveillance behaviour, suspicion and worry—these are all things which are done to gain information, or which are anxiety caused by a lack of information.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">In poly circles, it's very common to try and have partners meet each other. This is a direct way of reducing uncertainty in relationships. Keeping partners up-to-date with what's happening, and what might happen, are other important ways to reduce uncertainty. Good communication seems to be a mainstay in long-term polyamorous relationships.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">Because jealousy can happen in response to imagined threats, it's important to be proactive with uncertainty reduction. If your partners get used to you letting them know about things you feel might be important to them, they'll feel much more at ease, and much less worried that there might be something you're not telling them. Conversely, if your partner doesn't tell you something you'd like to have known earlier, let them know in a friendly and non-accusatory fashion; there's a chance they simply didn't know that was important to you.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #990000;"><b style="background-color: white; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: medium;">Jealousy</span></b></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">True jealousy is a </span><i style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">threat response</i><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">—a new person, event, or circumstances are threatening something you </span><i style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">already have</i><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">. Jealousy doesn't need to be restricted to relationships; you can be jealous because you think your housemate is secretly eating the ice-cream you've stowed in the freezer. However when it comes to relationships, the most serious form is romantic jealousy.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">While jealousy is always associated with a perceived threat, that threat needn't actually be </span><i style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">real</i><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">. In a monogamous relationship, one can be completely emotionally and sexually faithful, and still have a partner who feels jealous when you spend time with an attractive friend.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">This, combined with uncertainty, is one of the reasons why </span><i style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">new</i><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;"> partners in polyamorous relationships usually provoke many more jealous emotions than existing partners.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">I know from personal experience that I don't feel worried at all if a new person I'm dating has existing partners—they're simply not a threat. However I'll easily become jittery and worried if someone new arrives on the scene with one of </span><i style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">my</i><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;"> existing partners. What if this means I don't get to see my partner as often? What if they find the other person more fun or exciting? What if we're having problems, and I think they're finding someone else as a means of escape? Jealousy, envy, uncertainty and self-doubt can all easily come out at this stage.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">Making sure that your partners are feeling secure at any point in the relationship, but it's </span><i style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica Neue Light", HelveticaNeue-Light, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">especially</i><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue light" , , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;"> important if you're starting to see someone new. Be more pro-active in scheduling time with them, and make sure they feel appreciated—you'll go a long way to reducing any jealous feelings they might have. Research has also shown that jealousy is also much more common in dissatisfying relationships, so making sure everyone is happy and has their needs met is a great way to prevent jealousy from occurring in the first place.</span><br />
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Guerrero, Laura K., Peter A. Andersen, and Walid A. Afifi. <i>Close Encounters: Communication in Relationships</i>. Third ed. Sage Publications, Inc, 2010.</div>
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11 Signs Of Alcoholism – How to Tell If Someone Is An Alcoholic</h1>
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11 Key Signs Of Alcoholism</h2>
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<li style="box-sizing: inherit; font-size: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Being unable to limit the amount of alcohol you drink</li>
<li style="box-sizing: inherit; font-size: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Losing interest in activities and hobbies that used to bring pleasure</li>
<li style="box-sizing: inherit; font-size: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Feeling the need or compulsion to drink</li>
<li style="box-sizing: inherit; font-size: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Irritability when your usual drinking time nears, especially if alcohol isn’t available</li>
<li style="box-sizing: inherit; font-size: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Keeping alcohol in unlikely places at home, at work or in the car</li>
<li style="box-sizing: inherit; font-size: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Having legal problems or problems with relationships, employment or finances</li>
<li style="box-sizing: inherit; font-size: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Experiencing physical withdrawal symptoms</li>
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Alcoholism is a disease that can be put into remission. It is a chronic, relapsing, and fatal condition. One of the important things to look for is their body has become dependent on alcohol. They may be obsessed with alcohol and unable to control how much they drink. They’re drinking may be causing serious problems with their relationships, health, work and finances. It’s possible to have a problem with alcohol, but not be an alcoholic.</div>
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Signs You’re An Alcoholic</h2>
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<li style="box-sizing: inherit; font-size: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Being unable to limit the amount of alcohol you drink</li>
<li style="box-sizing: inherit; font-size: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Losing interest in activities and hobbies that used to bring pleasure</li>
<li style="box-sizing: inherit; font-size: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Feeling the need or compulsion to drink</li>
<li style="box-sizing: inherit; font-size: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Irritability when your usual drinking time nears, especially if alcohol isn’t available</li>
<li style="box-sizing: inherit; font-size: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Keeping alcohol in unlikely places at home, at work or in the car</li>
<li style="box-sizing: inherit; font-size: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Having legal problems or problems with relationships, employment or finances</li>
<li style="box-sizing: inherit; font-size: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Experiencing physical withdrawal symptoms</li>
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Alcohol dependence, the more serious of the disorders, is a disease that includes these key symptoms:</div>
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<li style="box-sizing: inherit; font-size: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span style="box-sizing: inherit; font-weight: 700; line-height: inherit;">Craving</span> – A strong need, or urge, to drink.</li>
<li style="box-sizing: inherit; font-size: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span style="box-sizing: inherit; font-weight: 700; line-height: inherit;">Loss of control</span> – Not being able to stop drinking once drinking has begun.</li>
<li style="box-sizing: inherit; font-size: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span style="box-sizing: inherit; font-weight: 700; line-height: inherit;">Dependence</span> – Withdrawal symptoms, such as nausea, sweating, shakiness, and negative emotional states such as anxiety, after stopping drinking.</li>
<li style="box-sizing: inherit; font-size: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span style="box-sizing: inherit; font-weight: 700; line-height: inherit;">Tolerance</span>—The need to drink greater amounts of alcohol to feel the same effect.</li>
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Symptoms & Signs of Alcoholism</h2>
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People who are alcoholic often will spend a great deal of their time drinking, making sure they can get alcohol, and recovering from alcohol’s effects, often at the expense of other activities and responsibilities.<br />
Although people who abuse alcohol are not physically dependent, they still have a serious disorder. They may not fulfill responsibilities at home, work, or school because of their drinking. They may also put themselves in dangerous situations (like driving under the influence) or have legal or social problems (such as arrests or arguments with family members) due to their drinking.</div>
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Keep a close out for changes in their life. Have they stop doing things they used to enjoy doing, for example. Is the performance at work or school dropped? Someones mood swings can also be a good indicator of a serious <a href="https://www.addict-help.com/drinking-problem-rehab" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: inherit; color: black; line-height: inherit; text-decoration-color: rgb(7, 154, 56); transition: all 0.5s ease;" title="drinking problem">drinking problem</a>.</div>
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How to Know For Certain – The Signs of Alcoholism</h2>
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There seems to be an awfully lot of confusion about whether or not someone is just a “problem drinker” or a full blown alcoholic. The key thing to look for is the fine but important distinction of <span style="box-sizing: inherit; font-weight: 700; line-height: inherit;">physical dependency</span> and tolerance. If they suffer severe withdrawal symptoms and crave a drink the day after, and they are drinking more and more to achieve the same effect, then they are an alcoholic.</div>
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<span style="box-sizing: inherit; font-weight: 700; line-height: inherit;">The Next Step</span></div>
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Since these things are rather subjective, the best thing to consider doing if you or someone you know may have a problem, is see a professional. Make an appointment with a licensed addiction therapist and get a complete <a href="https://alorecovery.com/?utm_source=website&utm_medium=in-content&utm_campaign=addict_help_incontent&utm_term=addict_help_in_content" rel="noopener" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: inherit; color: black; line-height: inherit; text-decoration-color: rgb(7, 154, 56); transition: all 0.5s ease;">evaluation and assessment</a> done. That is the only way to know for certain whether they have this disease, or not.</div>
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Treatment For Alcoholism</h2>
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Treatment is always the right best method of beginning the process of recovery. Proper medically supervised detox is always necessary. Alcohol detox is serious business. It must be done under the care of a trained professional. In some cases, <a href="http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/outpatient" rel="noopener noreferrer" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: inherit; color: black; line-height: inherit; text-decoration-color: rgb(7, 154, 56); transition: all 0.5s ease;" title="outpatient">outpatient</a> may be the right level of care. In others, inpatient residential may be right. It will depend on a variety of factors. The person doing the evaluation and assessment should be able to help you decide what’s best.</div>
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“I’m An Alcoholic” – How To Tell If You Are An Alcoholic</h2>
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My close friend hesitated, the concern in her voice palpable: “I’m not sure, but I believe my life-long friend has an alcohol problem.”</div>
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“Why do you believe that?” I said.</div>
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She went on to tell me that a good of friend of her friend had called her and asked her to join her for lunch. At that lunch, she told her that their mutual friend was drinking during work hours where they both worked and then she asked for her help.</div>
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My friend then said to me: “I don’t have any idea where to begin to help and I’m not certain my friend is really an alcoholic. I don’t think she drinks that much. What are the signs of alcoholism?”</div>
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First I told her that drinking at work, if she is, is a strong sign that her friend could have an issue with alcohol.</div>
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I said: “Let’s back up a little and take a look at the basic indicators of alcohol dependence.</div>
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Since you know your friend so well, if you knew your friend would answer these questions honestly, how many times would she say: “yes?”</div>
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Here’s what I asked:</div>
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When you go out with your friends, whether alone or with others, can you easily stop after having just one drink without even thinking about it?</div>
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Or, do you promise yourself and others that you’re just going to have one drink tonight and that n-e-v-e-r turns out to be true?</div>
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Do you ever hear yourself say to friends: “I r-e-a-l-l-y need a drink?”</div>
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Ever said to friends: “You know I used to get buzzed on a single glass of wine, but it seems I now need a couple of vodka’s to get my buzz goin’”</div>
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Ever wake up in the morning, startled, wondering how you got there even if it’s your own bed?</div>
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Ever wake up in the morning and can only remember some of what happened last night?</div>
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Have you gotten used to heading out after a work for a drink with everyone and get annoyed or even pissed, when that doesn’t happen?</div>
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After a coupla drinks, do you finally “normal?”</div>
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Ever hide alcohol around your apartment so you can have a drink without your roommate knowing it?</div>
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Ever get up in the morning and have a drink to smooth-out the effects of last night’s drinking?</div>
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Ever order a “double” or a couple of back-to-back “doubles” to get the night really rolling?</div>
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Do you wish others would stop asking you about your drinking?</div>
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Ever try to cut down by not drinking the drink you love and switch to one you don’t particularly like?</div>
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Ever get pulled over for a traffic stop and feel relieved you hadn’t been drinking?</div>
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Did someone you care about ever ask you to stop drinking? And, if you didn’t stop, did they “disappear” from your life?</div>
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Did you ever say or do something when you were drinking that you would n-e-v-e-r have done if you were sober?</div>
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Ever have anyone tell you about a conversation you had with them and you can’t remember any of it?</div>
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Has your drinking caused “trouble” with friends, family or your roommate?</div>
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When you’re drinking, do you believe you’re funnier, smarter, better-looking or a much better dancer?</div>
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When you’re drinking do you feel more relaxed, more outgoing?</div>
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Late at night, do you think: “I’ve got a drinking problem, a real drinking problem and I don’t know how to stop?”</div>
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Are you afraid you’re going to lose your job because you drink during working hours and do it anyhow?</div>
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Can you think of even one thing you’ve always enjoyed doing that seems to have slowly disappeared out of your life?</div>
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At the end of the questions my friend paused and then said: “Phew, that’s a lot of questions.</div>
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She went on: “Those questions got me thinking about my drinking instead of my friends. I answered a couple of those questions for myself with “yes.”</div>
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“If you have one drink, honestly one drink, from time to time and you could answer only a few, like two or three of those questions with a “yes,” it’s unlikely you’re an alcoholic.</div>
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Alcoholism is cunning; it whispers in your ear that you’re not an alcoholic, you’re just having a good time, just like everyone else,” I said.</div>
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“Alcoholism tells you that having some wine with lunch is just like people all over the world, and they don’t make doggie bags for leftover wine, so you finish the half-carafe.</div>
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You think your telling yourself that when you have a couple drinks that you’re better looking, smarter and even funnier, but it’s alcoholism that’s speaking.</div>
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Alcohol dependenceis powerful; it, not lack of willpower, can make it impossible for you to stop drinking after the first drink.</div>
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Alcohol dependence is baffling; it can send mixed messages and quickly and easily manage to confuse you.”</div>
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“I’ve known her almost all her life and feel like I should have seen her alcoholic behavior and done something to stop it,” my friend said.</div>
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I gently told her: “This is not your fault. You didn’t cause your friend to drink, any more than you could give your friend arthritis. You can’t control your friends drinking. And, since alcoholism is a disease, you can’t cure it.”</div>
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“That’s just great,” she said sarcastically. “So, what can I do?”</div>
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“How about beginning this way?” I said. “Tell your friend you might have some alcohol issues because of those questions and you want her to read through them as if she were you and see how she’d answer them if she were you.</div>
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What might happen is that there could be a new awareness, maybe not right then in some miraculous epiphany, but a little later on, once she gets a chance to think about it. And, it may open a conversation with her.</div>
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My last suggestion is to do this in a loving, caring and non-judgmental way. You two are BFF’s and probably turn to each other for many things and this may open the door for her turning to you.”</div>
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<strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">To reset your forgotten Yahoo! Mail password and restore access to your account:</strong></div>
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<li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style: none; margin: 0px 0px 0.625rem 1em; padding: 0px; position: relative;">Enter your Yahoo! Mail email address or your phone<strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"> </strong>number. Tip: You don't have to include the "@<span class="skimlinks-unlinked" style="box-sizing: border-box;">yahoo.com</span>" part of your email address.</li>
<li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style: none; margin: 0px 0px 0.625rem 1em; padding: 0px; position: relative;">Click <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">Continue</strong>. Yahoo! Mail's sign-in helper will now walk you through the options.</li>
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If you have a mobile number associated with the account and can access text messages received there:</div>
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<li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style: none; margin: 0px 0px 0.625rem 1em; padding: 0px; position: relative;">Click <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">Yes, text me an Account Key</strong> under <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">Do you have access to this phone?</strong>. If you're unable to receive or see text messages at that number, make sure you choose <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">I don't have access to this phone</strong> so you get other options for resetting your forgotten Yahoo! Mail password.</li>
<li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style: none; margin: 0px 0px 0.625rem 1em; padding: 0px; position: relative;">You'll receive an account key by text within a couple minutes. Enter it under <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">Verify that you have this phone</strong>.</li>
<li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style: none; margin: 0px 0px 0.625rem 1em; padding: 0px; position: relative;">Click <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">Verify</strong>.</li>
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<li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style: none; margin: 0px 0px 0.625rem 1em; padding: 0px; position: relative;">Click <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">Yes, send me an Account Key</strong> under <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">Do you have access to this email?</strong>. If you suspect somebody may be reading your email or if you cannot receive messages at the address anymore, click <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">I don't have access to this email</strong> instead.</li>
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<li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style: none; margin: 0px 0px 0.625rem 1em; padding: 0px; position: relative;">Click <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">Verify</strong>.</li>
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If you do not have access to either a secondary email address or phone number, Yahoo! may ask you for other information to verify your identity, such as contacts in your Yahoo! Mail address book.</div>
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Once you have successfully recovered access to your account, you can <a data-component="link" data-ordinal="5" data-source="inlineLink" data-type="internalLink" href="https://ihave-a-problemwith.blogspot.com/2018/01/i-have-problem-with-my-password-yahoo.html" style="box-shadow: rgb(0, 186, 255) 0px -2px 0px inset; box-sizing: border-box; color: #00baff; outline: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; text-decoration-line: none; transition: all 0.15s ease-in-out;">change the Yahoo! Mail password</a> to whatever you like (and will remember); it is best, of course, to use a <a data-component="link" data-ordinal="6" data-source="inlineLink" data-type="internalLink" href="https://ihave-a-problemwith.blogspot.com/2018/01/i-have-problem-with-my-password-yahoo.html" style="box-shadow: rgb(0, 186, 255) 0px -2px 0px inset; box-sizing: border-box; color: #00baff; outline: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; text-decoration-line: none; transition: all 0.15s ease-in-out;">strong email password</a>.</div>
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If you have run out of options for Yahoo! Mail to verify your account automatically, there is very little you can do without additional help from Yahoo!. You can try posting about your situation to the Yahoo! Help Community, where Yahoo! employees gather information:</div>
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<li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style: none; margin: 0px 0px 0.625rem 1em; padding: 0px; position: relative;">Visit this <a data-component="link" data-ordinal="7" data-source="inlineLink" data-type="externalLink" href="https://io.help.yahoo.com/contact/index?page=home&locale=en_US&y=PROD_ACCT" rel="noopener" style="box-shadow: rgb(0, 186, 255) 0px -2px 0px inset; box-sizing: border-box; color: #00baff; outline: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; text-decoration-line: none; transition: all 0.15s ease-in-out;" target="_blank">Yahoo! </a><a data-component="link" data-ordinal="8" data-source="inlineLink" data-type="externalLink" href="https://forums.yahoo.net/t5/Password-and-sign-in/bd-p/PasswordSign-in" rel="noopener" style="box-shadow: rgb(0, 186, 255) 0px -2px 0px inset; box-sizing: border-box; color: #00baff; outline: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; text-decoration-line: none; transition: all 0.15s ease-in-out;" target="_blank">Help Community <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">Password and sign-in</strong> forum</a>.</li>
<li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style: none; margin: 0px 0px 0.625rem 1em; padding: 0px; position: relative;">Learn about <a data-component="link" data-ordinal="9" data-source="inlineLink" data-type="externalLink" href="https://forums.yahoo.net/t5/Password-and-sign-in/Forgot-password-recovery-information-outdate-wrong/m-p/691#M68" rel="noopener" style="box-shadow: rgb(0, 186, 255) 0px -2px 0px inset; box-sizing: border-box; color: #00baff; outline: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; text-decoration-line: none; transition: all 0.15s ease-in-out;" target="_blank">recovering passwords for individual accounts</a>.</li>
<li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style: none; margin: 0px 0px 0.625rem 1em; padding: 0px; position: relative;">You can <a data-component="link" data-ordinal="10" data-source="inlineLink" data-type="externalLink" href="https://forums.yahoo.net/t5/forums/postpage/board-id/PasswordSign-in" rel="noopener" style="box-shadow: rgb(0, 186, 255) 0px -2px 0px inset; box-sizing: border-box; color: #00baff; outline: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; text-decoration-line: none; transition: all 0.15s ease-in-out;" target="_blank">post to the <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">Password and sign-in</strong> forum</a> to add your feedback. You may have to create a Yahoo! Help Community account to post. <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">Important</strong>: Do not post any personal information, such as the Yahoo! Mail email address for which you have forgotten the password, phone numbers, remembered passwords, or anything similar.</li>
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You have important things to do in your Yahoo account, so let's get you back in! Here are solutions for some frequent account access issues.</div>
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<a data-rapid_p="2" href="https://login.yahoo.com/forgot?" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: inherit; color: #0a80e3; text-decoration-line: none;" title="Go to the Sign-in Helper.">Use the Sign-in Helper to get back into your account</a> using your Yahoo ID, mobile number, recovery phone number, or recovery email address. If you forgot your password, be sure to change your password to a strong one that you'll remember after you're in.</div>
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<li style="box-sizing: inherit;"><strong style="box-sizing: inherit;">"Caps Lock" or "Num Lock" keys</strong> - Make sure you haven't toggled these on.</li>
<li style="box-sizing: inherit;"><strong style="box-sizing: inherit;">Browser autofill settings</strong> - If your browser remembers your password and you recently changed it, you may have to <a data-rapid_p="5" href="https://help.yahoo.com/kb/check-browser-autofill-settings-sln2164.html" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: inherit; color: #0a80e3; text-decoration-line: none;" title="Learn how to update your browser autofill settings.">update these settings in your browser</a>.</li>
<li style="box-sizing: inherit;"><strong style="box-sizing: inherit;">Browser software</strong> - Try signing in using a different supported browser. If you can, the problem's not with your account; you need to <a data-rapid_p="6" href="https://help.yahoo.com/kb/fix-problem-preferred-browser-sln2891.html" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: inherit; color: #0a80e3; text-decoration-line: none;" title="Learn how to fix browser issues.">fix the problem in your preferred browser</a>.</li>
<li style="box-sizing: inherit;"><strong style="box-sizing: inherit;">Someone changed your password</strong> - A hacker may have broken in and changed your password. <a data-rapid_p="7" href="https://login.yahoo.com/forgot?" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: inherit; color: #0a80e3; text-decoration-line: none;" title="Go to the Sign-in Helper.">Try using the Sign-in Helper to get back into your account</a> and change your password; make sure it's strong. Then review your account settings and undo changes you didn't make.</li>
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To protect your account, it may be temporarily locked after too many unsuccessful attempts to sign in. It will be unlocked automatically after 12 hours, but you can always <a data-rapid_p="10" href="https://login.yahoo.com/forgot?" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: inherit; color: #0a80e3; text-decoration-line: none;" title="Go to the Sign-in Helper.">regain access to your account immediately using the Sign-in Helper</a>.</div>
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If you're caught in a loop where the sign-in screen keeps reappearing after you click "Sign in," you need to reset the "sign-in" cookie.</div>
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<li style="box-sizing: inherit; list-style: none outside none; padding: 0px 30px; position: relative;">Click <strong style="box-sizing: inherit;">Not you?</strong> on the sign-in page.</li>
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<li style="box-sizing: inherit; list-style: none outside none; padding: 0px 30px; position: relative;">Close and re-open your browser, then try signing in again.</li>
<li style="box-sizing: inherit; list-style: none outside none; padding: 0px 30px; position: relative;">If you're having trouble signing directly in to Yahoo Mail or a different product page, <a data-rapid_p="13" href="https://login.yahoo.com/" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: inherit; color: #0a80e3; text-decoration-line: none;" title="Go to the Yahoo sign-in page.">try signing in to the primary Yahoo login page</a>.</li>
<li style="box-sizing: inherit; list-style: none outside none; padding: 0px 30px; position: relative;">Complete these steps again <a data-rapid_p="14" href="https://help.yahoo.com/kb/supported-browser-sln4556.html" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: inherit; color: #0a80e3; text-decoration-line: none;" title="Learn which browsers work best with Yahoo.">using a different supported browser</a>.</li>
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If you're locked out because someone else learned and changed your password, <a data-rapid_p="16" href="https://login.yahoo.com/forgot?" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: inherit; color: #0a80e3; text-decoration-line: none;" title="Go to the Sign-in Helper.">use the Sign-in Helper to get back in</a>. Lock your account using a new strong password, then review your account settings for changes and undo any that you didn't make.</div>
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ADMINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09458010793625286266noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3010909731661913699.post-54645806650339070702018-01-10T11:52:00.000-08:002018-01-10T11:52:09.764-08:00I have a problem with my parents, My Parents Don't Understand Me!ADMINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09458010793625286266noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3010909731661913699.post-34310176041542127492018-01-10T11:33:00.005-08:002018-01-11T11:15:22.382-08:00I have a problem with my parents ? How to Fix a Bad Relationship With Your Parents ?<h1 style="clear: left; font-family: georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 2.8em; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.1em; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;">
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Having a good relationship with one's parents is very important for most of us. However, let's face it, relationships with parents can be quite difficult and complex. There is scope for lots of misunderstandings and conflicts. These basically stem from lack of communication in most instances. However, in other instances, communication itself can be the source of conflicts. For example, you don't want to get involved in a verbal slanging match with your parents. That's certainly not the sort of communication you'd want to get going with your parents. Such verbal insults directed at each other can gradually erode away the goodwill and love present in a relationship between a parent and a child and can do much damage, some of which may last a lifetime.<br />
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A bad relationship with one's parents can be the cause of much heartache and stress. Many of us just give up at a point and let things be. We resign ourselves to the fact that we can never have a good relationship with our parents, but should we really just give up on fixing things between us and our parents. No, I don't think we should give up!!</div>
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So, how do you fix a bad relationship with your parents? Here are some strategies that are drawn from my own personal experience in dealing with my mom and dad. Needless to say I've had problems with my parents as well.</div>
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For a start, you should analyze what the problem areas are in your relationship with your parents. This is very important. Unless you know the problems, you are unlikely to get anywhere near solving them. So, get to work and draw up a list of the recent conflicts you've had with your parents and what triggered them off. Make a note of the things you've said or done that hurt them especially. Of course, there might be some things that you feel you are right about and have no reason to have said differently. You can hold on to those points of view. However, you can hold your views without coming across as being confrontational.</div>
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Having thus drawn up a list of the recent conflicts you've had with your parents, try and formulate an imaginary response to each of the conflict situations and see which one suits the situation the best. This is important because in the heat of the moment, you respond spontaneously, without much thought, and say things that you may regret later.</div>
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Hence, imagine the conflict situation that is most likely to happen between you and your parents and formulate the best response you can give to those. The next time you are faced with a similar conflict situation, put your plans into action. Instead of getting sucked into a familiar routine of verbal or physical confrontation, try being diplomatic or keeping silent. Try perhaps to explain yourself in a sentence or two and then just refusing to get drawn into a slanging match.</div>
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You could then seek out your parents when they are calmer and then have an honest talk with them, explaining your point of view (they'd appreciate your doing so). If they are not open to having a talk and are still upset with you, then the best thing you could do is to write them a letter describing your point of view in a respectful tone and they'd surely see your point of view much better this way.</div>
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Writing a letter is a very good option because it cuts out the verbal interaction to getting your thoughts across. Verbal interaction can often go out of hand and result in increasing tempers and can even lead into a physical altercation. A letter just conveys your thoughts, not your animosity or anger!! By putting out your thoughts in a letter, you avoid any chances of a discussion between you getting out of hand.</div>
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1. Be patient and be willing to hear your parents' side of the story.<strong><br /></strong></div>
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2. Do not bring up past issues when you are trying to solve an immediate issue of concern.</div>
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3. Be willing to communicate first and approach your parents first. Don't let your ego come in the way. If you want to fix the relationship from your side, then be willing to make the start.</div>
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4. Be willing to accept and acknowledge your faults in the deterioration of your relationship. Honest acknowledgement of your mistakes will be appreciated by your parents and can become the basis of a stronger foundation on which to build your future relationship on.</div>
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5. Be totally honest about what you feel and expect out of your parents. Do not be afraid to bring up negative aspects of your parents that may be contributing to the relationship worsening. Let them know, but in a polite and non-confrontational way so they do not get an opportunity to shout their way out of it, but rather have to think about it and reflect upon it and maybe feel compelled to change it to better the relationship.</div>
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6. Try to understand things from their point of view and make them see things from your perspective. Try to find common ground when you can and be open towards compromises. Do not be rigid, do not be inflexible and hold on to your position come what may. Talk and find out a way that would be acceptable to both of you. If that is not possible, do it your way but take efforts to explain to your parents why you did what you did and why that doesn't take away from your love towards them.</div>
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In general, keep your parents in the loop as to the goings-on in your life - whenever you can. They'd feel involved in your life and appreciate your sharing things with them. Respect them and speak to them politely (even if you don't share their point of view). Keep in touch with them, even though you may have a busy life. It is not impossible to find time to call them up and make them feel like they are a real part of your life. Bad relationships don't happen overnight and therefore cannot be fixed overnight. It will be a work in progress and so it is important that you keep working at it. A few small steps is what you start with, and before you know, you'd be surprised at how things have improved between you two!</div>
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